ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS/HER BEHAVIOR.
We do not control others. We can only influence others to want to
change their behavior.
ESTABLISH AN ATMOSPHERE OF MUTUAL RESPECT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR
CHILD. Children respond more positively when adults are consistent,
honest, open and supportive.
DETERMINE THE BEHAVIOR OR EVENTS THAT TAKE PLACE BEFORE AND AFTER
UNWANTED OR UNDESIRABLE BEHAVIORS. It is important to identify the
things in the environment which set off or positively reinforce
the child’s inappropriate behavior.
ESTABLISH CONSEQUENCES THAT ARE NATURAL AND/OR LOGICAL AND APPLY
THE CONSEQUENCES OBJECTIVELY (WITHOUT ANGER). If the consequence
for the child is to sit and think for 15 minutes, to also yell in
anger or to spank the child will destroy the effect of the learning
process.
PERMIT THE INDIVIDUAL TO MAKE HIS CHOICES AND TO LIVE WITH THE
CONSEQUENCES. If the individual makes the choice, then the outcome
should rest with the one making the choice. When the parent accepts
the consequence, then the parent denies the child the opportunity
to grow and mature.
MAKE CERTAIN EACH OF YOUR CHILDREN IS A VALUED CONTRIBUTOR. Maturation
demands that everyone is treated as a full-fledged member of the
family.
Source – CANHCgram
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